What Actually Happens in a Private Neuro Change Consultation

People book the Consultation for a specific reason and then, quite reasonably, want to know what they have booked. This is that answer, without the mystery.

Where we meet

We meet in person at a private address in London, or remotely on Zoom or a WhatsApp call, whichever you prefer. Either way the session is confidential by default, and for public clients a discretion agreement is signed before we begin.

The first twenty minutes: the situation, then the pattern

You tell me what is going on. I listen for something specific. Not the story, which you know better than I do, but the shape underneath it: the behaviour that keeps turning up, the trigger that sets it off, the thing it is quietly protecting you from.

This is what I mean by pattern analysis. It is structured observation. I am asking precise questions and watching what happens to your language, your pace and your body as you answer. Most people have one dominant pattern running across money, work and relationships, wearing a different costume in each. By about twenty minutes in, we can usually name it.

Naming matters more than it sounds. You cannot change something you are still calling "just how I am".

The middle: why it exists and what it costs

Every pattern was a good idea once. Over-giving kept someone close. Shrinking kept you out of the line of fire. Controlling the outcome made an unpredictable house feel manageable. We find the point where yours made sense, not to dwell on it, but because the part of you that built the pattern will not let it go until it understands it is no longer needed.

Then we price it. What has this been costing you, specifically, this year? The deal you did not push for. The relationship you pre-emptively ended. The hours spent rehearsing conversations that never happened. People are often surprised by how large the bill is once it is written down, and that surprise is useful. It turns a vague wish to be different into a decision.

The last part: the first move

The Consultation is not a conversation that ends with "something to think about". We finish with one agreed next step, small enough to do this week and specific enough that you will know whether you did it. Often it is a different response to a recurring moment, rehearsed in the room so your system has already felt it once before it meets the real thing.

You leave with the pattern named, the trigger identified, the cost on paper and the first move agreed.

Who it suits

The Consultation is for people who already function well and are frustrated by the one place they do not. Founders before a decision they keep circling. Executives stepping up to a bigger stage. Creatives who have stopped finishing. Players and performers whose form has dipped without a technical reason. Anyone before, during or after a divorce or separation who wants to move through it without repeating what came before.

It is not therapy and I am not a therapist. If what you describe needs clinical support, I will say so in the first ten minutes and point you somewhere appropriate. Equally, if within those ten minutes it is clear the half-day Immersion is the right format rather than a single session, I will say that too, and the £150 comes off the Immersion.

It does not always have to be a deep dive

Not everyone who books the hour wants to go to the root of something. Sometimes you simply need sixty minutes with someone who already knows your pattern and will not let you talk around it. That is included in the same session, at the same price.

Most of my clients, once they have been with me for a while, use the Consultation exactly this way: a catch-up before a big week, a review of a decision they have already made, or an hour to reflect with nothing to fix. The structure bends to what you need that day. If you arrive with a situation, we work the pattern. If you arrive needing to think out loud with someone who holds the thread, that is what the hour is for.

A pathway, not a one-off

I want to be clear about this because people often assume the £150 session is the small option and the real change happens elsewhere. It is not, and it does not. The Consultation is a pathway. The career move, the relationship you are ready to have, the step up in how you live: each of those is built from a series of clear, honest hours in which you see what is running and choose differently. For some clients that is one session. For others it is one a month for a year. Both are the work.

Afterwards

Some people need one session. They came for a decision, the pattern was the thing in the way, and they leave able to make it. Others find the session shows them how much is running underneath and choose to go deeper, either in the Immersion or on a monthly basis. There is no pressure either way; you will know by the end of the hour which you are.

The Private Neuro Change Consultation is £150, sixty minutes, booked directly from the site, whether it is your first hour or your fortieth. If you would like to start smaller, The Shift is seven short mornings of audio that walk through the same arc on your own.

Tori Ajayi is a London-based Certified Neuro Change Practitioner, Self-Mastery Strategist and Transformation Coach. She trained with the Neuro Change Institute, of which she is a member, and works privately with founders, executives, creatives and public figures, in person, by Zoom or by WhatsApp call. This article is coaching and self-mastery content; it is not psychotherapy, psychology, medical treatment or crisis support.